Marriage: From the Horse's Mouth

Here a woman speaks honestly about marriage.

Yes, it's satirical, and she's a white-wine drinking, SUV driver pulling in six figures, but she is the voice of Cassandra warning the blissfully single. Ask not for whom the wedding bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

Try this: "I'm no historian, but it doesn't take a Paul Johnson (author of A History of the American People ) to tell us why it's so hard to stay married. We live too long."

Here's an insight into married sex: Call me insightful, but I began to suspect that my own marriage was in trouble after we passed the five-year mark with no sex. By that time my husband had replaced the glass door on his room -- he'd moved to the other side of the house some years before -- with a solid wood door, so he could have sex with himself in private.

Misery loves company: Still, the dinner parties, the 50th birthday invitations, and the East Hampton guest-cottage invitations continued unabated, so other than no sex, no discussion and no more children (my husband drew the line at one), I thought we had an OK marriage. The couples we socialized with didn't seem all that much happier. They were constantly arguing about whose turn it was to do an undesirable thing, or the mess, or the children, or the money, and my husband and I had too much sense for any of that. Whenever I sniffled to the women in these couples about the lack of sex in my marriage, they said, without exception, "God, are you lucky. All my husband thinks about is sex."

Now she drops the bomb:
Just as the itsy bitsy spider climbs up the spout again, marriage, in the land of Brad and Jen, causes divorce. Not just half the time. That washed-out statistic is from our parents' generations. Statistically speaking, my still-married cohort has at least another 30 years to get divorced before it starts dying off en masse. Let's see what the numbers look like then.

What she is saying here is that the old saw about "half of marriages end in divorce" is about to reach meltdown. The current figures include people from strict, traditional eras when marriage was a sacred duty. What will happen to the current divorce figures when the younger generation reaches marriage (and divorce) age?


I repeat: Marriage causes divorce. And if you think a bad marriage ain't fun, wait until you get in bed with divorce.

Things get nasty:
Show me the parent who believes his child would be better off living full-time with the other parent, and I'll show you someone on life support. So the lawyers get richer. And more power to them, I say, because without my very expensive divorce lawyer my son would still be trying to remember where he'd met me before.

Similarly, nobody enjoys going through a divorce -- it's very unpleasant. A good divorce seems possible only if you had a really, really, great marriage, in which case you wouldn't be divorcing. "The parties hate each other," wrote the family services officer in his treatise on my marriage. Stop the presses!
Yes, like marriage only more so, divorce is full of nasty, nasty surprises. Injustices, outrages, and strange noises coming from the boiler room.

The good news? You soon won't be alone:
But there's a good side to divorce. Apart from death, you've gotten the whole thing out of the way. You're soaring -- solitary, perhaps, but high, high above your peer group, circling like an ever-so-patient bird of prey while you wait for the inevitable divorces of all your friends. Like Lasik and fiberoptics, we divorced people -- we're your future.

Evolutionary Psychology

The following is a good overview of evolutionary psychology.

In short, everything that we place under the categories of love, sex and romance has biological roots that are universal across cultures.

As long as a guy fails to understand his innate drives, and falls for crap like romance, marriage and true love, he is doomed to fail. When men try to succeed with women by following popular guidelines rather than appealing to women's instinctive drives, those men will fail.

Sex Tip

Check out the following kissing technique from seductionlair.com:

Wyldfire has a short-but-sweet post up on the Don Juan board about a kissing technique that's designed to make the woman you're kissing completely infatuated with you.

Wyldfire writes:Okay, let's face it...how you kiss a woman can either make or break your image in her eyes. You can use this simple technique to sweep a woman off her feet and double her interest level in you. Use this technique wisely and only on women you want to really fall for you. Don't use it on someone you don't want to keep around or you'll never get rid of her.

When you go in for the kiss, put your hands on her neck and very gently caress her. Start the kiss off softly, still gently stroking her neck, and running your fingers through her hair at the nape of her neck.

Very softly and slowly part her lips with your tongue. Don't put your tongue too far into her mouth...just a little bit in and work it very slowly and without much pressure.

A kiss like this makes a woman weak in the knees. Save the hard passionate kisses for later on down the line. Use this more erotic kind of kiss to keep her thinking of you until you see her again.

Men's Political Action Guide: Paternity

As the law currently stands, paternity means a man pays hundreds or thousands of dollars a month for two decades. The court may garnish a man’s wages or send him to jail if he gets behind in his payments. Bankruptcy does not absolve a man of any child support owed. He may be mandated to provide health insurance. In some cases, a man may lose as much as 60% of his wages to child support payments.

But as onerous as the payments may be, even more grating is the fact that visitation rights are not enforced, and the role of ex-husband making support payments is an insignificant one, in which a man is stripped of any authority he had as a father.

Given the long-lasting and severe impact of being a father out of the home, it should not be not surprising when men disappear or just drop out. “Deadbeat dads” are not born; they are created by the system. Society is lucky that deadbeat dads choose non-violence: other men do not. The violence may be directed at the mother of their children, the pregnant girlfriend and her unborn child, and in the most tragic cases, at the children themselves. Although it is not justified, when men are emasculated financially and in their role as fathers, it is inevitable that some will respond violently, like the football star Ray Carruth, who decided that in view of all he stood to lose, having his pregnant girlfriend killed was the best option.

A male birth control pill is not far off, and it will be the single greatest means for the emancipation of men. Until that time men should advocate the following reforms, as well as support candidates and parties that espouse these principles.


No Man Should Be Liable for a Child that is Not His

This should be obvious. Yet a man who assumes the role of father of a child that is not biologically his, and the man married to an spouse impregnated through an adulterous affair, or the man who marries a woman who already has children, all are subject to child support.


No Man Should Be Forced to Support a Child Conceived by Fraud

It has been said that in no other area of the law does the court order a man to pay the person who defrauded him. Yet the woman who falsely claims to be on the pill, who fishes a used condom out of the wastebasket to impregnate herself, who cuckolds her husband, the woman who is pregnant by Tom but tells Sam that he is the father, and so on, all of these con artists stand to benefit to the tune of thousands of dollars over 20 years because of the law as it stands.



Women Must Be Held Responsible

In an era of readily available, highly effective birth control, women must be held responsible for getting pregnant. Unless she is raped, no woman can be made pregnant against her will.


Men Should Have the Same Options as Women

A woman has a right to an abortion, regardless of how the father of her child feels (even if he is her legal husband). She alone determines whether the child lives or dies, and whether or not a man must bear the burden of child support for 18 or more years. A man should be able to raise the child, assuming he takes full responsibility if the mother chooses not to. A man should have the option of either being primary custodian (minus support payments) or not paying child support if she chooses to raise the child on her own.

The crazy state of affairs we are in means that a woman can get pregnant by any means and assume that she will get hundreds of dollars a month. If a man is rich enough, she may get thousands, like Dennis Rodman’s ex, who gets $10,000 a month! Pregnancy should neither be a career nor a means of getting rich quickly. Women need to be stripped of the easy assumption that “pregnancy = cash” in order to restore responsibility and fairness.


Child Support Should Be Based on Need, Not a Percentage of Income

The richer a man is, the more likely he is to be set up for the pregnancy scam, because a woman knows that she stands to get not just the money needed to support a child, but far beyond that. Every man of means is therefore a target, and if we are concerned about children, we should aim to reduce the number of children conceived in order to get a monthly check. Again, if a man has the option of paying support or raising the child himself, the price of child support payments will come down, and the incentive for pregnancy-for-cash disappears.

The larger problem is that the government has a financial incentive to enlarge its power. More divorced families, more single mothers, more and larger child support payments, mean more money, job security, and power for governmental agencies. Something needs to be done to keep issues of family, adoption, and child support out of the hands of the government.

Seduction Update: The Wall of Silence

Before I rag on some clueless tool from The Magic Cafe, BG from the blogroll shared this link with me concerning "vibing" or filler conversation.

In the meantime, fastseduction.com has some useful advice on seduction. It is a forum where men post to offer their advice, their experiences (field reports), and to ask questions.

Remember, the problem has been for years --and even today, when it's totally unnecessary-- that men are all alone when it comes to scoring women. Most men are operating on common "knowledge" about success with women, ranging from "be a nice guy and buy her flowers for the date," to "act macho and wave your dick at her." A guy is just is just supposed to figure it all out on his own, but the problem is that seduction is so counterintuitive that the typical guy wouldn't figure it out in several lifetimes.

Men could ask for help, if it weren't for the wall of silence. Guys feel too embarrassed to ask for help: it's simply too humiliating to say, "I've been getting nowhere on my dates --I can't even get to second base. What am I doing wrong?" Any real man is supposed to know everything about seduction, or maybe you're gay, huh? Let me state clearly that I don't know it all, and I can only take pride in the improvement I've made, not at the level where I'm at.

The wall of silence is maintained by the blustering dildo who tries to cover up his own sexual inadequacy by stomping over someone else who has the balls to either offer help or to ask for it. Where else could I go to find a prototypical example of a blustering dildo, if not to The Magic Cafe? Nicholas Johnson states that a DVD offering romantic advice for guys in tandem with magic is "one of the saddest things I have seen." I have to guess that Nicholas is resorting to exaggeration here, unless he's never seen burn victims or a dead person.

Nicholas goes on to ask, "Has anyone ever ACTUALLY scored using magic?" [The random capitalization is his, not mine.]

Not everyone on the Cafe is a numbskull, as attested to the immediate and obvious retort to Nicky's anal-retentive post. "Do you think Copperfield gets dates on his personality? What does it matter? Why do you care?" Thank you, Magic Chris, for renewing my faith in the possibility of intelligent life on the Cafe.

Look at the photo at the top of this post. Guess who the dork in the helmet is? That's right, David Kotkin, or David Copperfield. How do you think he landed a babe like Claudia Schiffer? As I have said before, anything can be a vehicle to success and power, even soup.

Newsflash:Porn Exploits MEN

In my last post I trashed a GQ article written by a brain-dead metrosexual on autopilot. For all I know, he tied a pen to his foot, and struck his knee with a doctor's mallet, allowing the knee-jerk reactions to write the article for him.

Let's see, evil men exploit women by paying them to have sex. Also because these evil men don't marry these women, they are filthy fornicators, which is really bad. Whether you are a fundamentalist Christian, a Muslim, a gung-ho (or just ho) feminist, or the run-of-the-mill brainwashed dupe, prostitution is bad, pornography is bad, sex without commitment (and marriage!) is bad. In short, the entire culture is at war with male sexuality, regardless of which side of the political or cultural spectrum you fall.

Because female prostitutes are "victims," they are not morally responsible; they are merely used. But this lame stereotype never considers the possibility that women choose to be prostitutes. The possibility that a woman --even a prostitute-- enjoys sex is never considered either.

In the world of pornography, the feminist (and common cultural) view is that women are exploited by lustful men. Yet Michelle Thorn, pictured above, states: "I have never felt exploited. If anything it's giving you power over men. The only people exploited, if anyone is, are the men who go out and spend their money on porn," says the 26-year-old from Bristol. But Miss Thorne claims: "The people in this world who are really being exploited are those women in those countries where they have to cover up all the time and can't vote or anything. A woman's sexuality does give her power."

Keep in mind that at its core, the feminist movement is not pro-female, but anti-male. Feminism is packed to the rafters with lesbians who are hostile to male sexuality. The feminist cant is that pornography is just another attempt by men to grind women under their heels. But how can any consensual exchange in which you get money be exploitative? Pornography and prostitution allow women to make large sums of money that they could not make otherwise.

And what of gay pornography? Does that mean that men are trying to subjugate themselves? Or that they hate themselves?

Sex for money is the default setting for human behavior, and men --particularly Beta Males-- must make certain that they are not being stripped of their money and their power.

More GQ Tripe

GQ recently featured an article on prostitution in the Philippines. It is just one more example of the bumbling propaganda that might have appeared in Pravda years ago, or the Maoist newspapers denouncing the "running dog imperialists" in the US.

This sort of tripe is the facile scrawlings of a simple mind: Evil Americans sexually exploit poor, innocent Filipinas

The typical slant goes like this: An innocent, wide-eyed Filipina is walking down the street to grandma's house, when an evil, fat American looks to slake his lust on her young (underaged!) body. She feels used, weeping quietly as he grunts like a pig on top of her, then he tosses a few pennies onto her still trembling, soiled body, then laughs as he leaves.

In these knee-jerk articles, no one is a bargirl because she had 3 kids by three different fathers out of wedlock due to the fact that she is a raging slut. No girl ever willing works at a bar, and they never laugh or smile (If they do, it's just to try to cover up the absolute misery they feel.)

In these articles, no Filipino ever visits a prostitute, nor pushes a girl into prostitution by impregnating, then dumping her. Many of the girls who work as prostitutes are there directly as a result of the actions of Filipino men. Women are raped, or promised marriage, impregnated and dumped, or a married man simply walks away and abandons the family. It is the evil Americans who step into the breech and support otherwise destitute women. Is this noble? No, but that's the way the world works. Filipino law provides nothing in the way of financial/material support to women.

Supposedly, the only reason the Philippines is a squalid third-world country and Filipinas sell themselves is because of Americans. If every American on the earth were to disappear, the Philippines would suddenly blossom, resembling the "It's a Small World After All" ride at Disneyland. Give me a frickin' break. The historical truth is that prostitution was rampant when Chinese merchants visited the Philippines, long before the Spaniards --let alone the Americans-- ever got there. Today many Chinese bosses (typically Chinese/Filipino mixed race known as "mestizos" or "chinoys") sexually exploit their wokers, but this sort of awkward fact doesn't fit into the pre-made mold of "evil American rapists in the Philippines."

It never occurs to the scribbling twat writer that Americans are ever used or victimized. The list of foreigners scammed and ripped off by Filipinos is interminable, but the writer with an agenda has no interest in that. Men sink their life savings into houses, bars, and businesses, only to have it stolen by scamming bitches and government officials (Like I said, scamming bitches). Police and other government officials routinely harass and extort money from tourists. Those poor, innocent Filipnas are at this moment working the chat rooms, sucking money out of gullible men, and many an honest, compassionate guy has been ripped off by the "sick child/mother in the province" story.

The article talks of the high-priced Makati prostitute who makes "only" $30 US a night. First, I must question whether or not a high-class girl working in the priciest district in the Philippines makes only $30 a night, when I have personally paid $30 US to a girl in the province, which does not include other income from ladies drinks and bar fines, not to mention outright cash contributions from former and current boyfriends. Secondly, assuming she actually gets $30, is $30 a mere pittance when the average Filipino income is $2 a day?

Try this article, you douche: "Desperate Men Have Sex with Rich Foreign Women, and Make Only $30 a Night." Can you imagine that article ever being written, some guy complaining that he makes hardly any money when he has sex with women?

Most importantly, though, look at how you are being had. This insidious propaganda implants the idea that sex is evil. While the "author" is a smug educated prick, this article could have been written by Pat Robertson or Jerry Falwell. "Look at these evil men sleeping with whores. Those sinners are having sex outside of marriage!" I mean, how could a woman possibly enjoy having sex? Despite what the article assumes, 99% of these relationships are consensual. Some of these girls become the boyfriends or wives of their customers. And if a guy likes to pay a girl for sex or see naked women in a bar, what is wrong with that, huh, Mr. GQ Southern Baptist?

This dumbass doesn't grasp the fact that women every where --including the US-- sleep with men for money. The article works mightily, like a muscle-bound, retarded Lenny hauling hay bales, trying to obscure the fact that money buys sex right here in the US. Can an American date a woman without expense? Can a poor Yankee janitor date a movie star? Why aren't Oprah or Martha Stewart, the two richest single women in America not married? Could it be that no American guy is rich enough? Why did the show Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire created a mass stampede of women, resembling the US in the pre-Columbian era, when buffalo thundered across the plains and the dust blotted the sun? Funny, I don't remember any sequel entitled, "Who Wants to Marry an Honest Guy with a Decent Job?" and I'd hate to see the women who would show up for that one.

The brainwashing continues. "No, don't go to the Philippines, and pay for sex with young, gorgeous women. Stay right here in the US and marry a potential fat woman, and get sex for free!"

Porn and Prostitutes? No Thanks.

During my stay in Cebu I would pass one spot on the sidewalk where I was always offered, in a hushed whisper, "X movie." I always declined and I had no interest. I was staying in an area where I could pick up a hooker any hour of the day or night, but I didn't.

Why? Is it because I'm spiritual? Or perhaps I have very strong moral character?

No. As far as spirituality goes, I wouldn't say I'm evil --I prefer the term "holiness challenged." And I'm a moral dwarf.

What happened is that I had a slim gorgeous highly-sexed girlfriend that I was screwing constantly.

All those years I went to church, pornography was a sin, masturbation was a sin, prostitution was a sin. Hell, even thinking about sex was a sin. Of course, the fact that these areas were sinful meant that I was alternately plagued by, and obsessed with, them.

You think that the answer would be obvious: a man with a regular sex life and a fulfilling relationship will not wallow in all sorts of filth.

The opposite is true: a man without a fulfilling sex life and a rewarding relationship (even if these relationships are short) will become trapped in less satisfying twisted activities such as:

• pornography
• prostitution
• masturbation
• inappropriate relationships such as
• women who are too young/old
• women who are married or attached
• women who are dysfunctional
• repulsive women
• abusive women
• women who are users
• marriage

And for the man who is losing, who is trying, but constantly spinning his wheels in his attempts to get some sort of recognition and affection from a woman, he will typically become simultaneously involved in several of these activities at the same time.

Harry the Horse

A guy going by Harry the Horse writes a column every month from Angeles, a city in the Philippines that is girlie bar heaven. In the July installment he comments on a guy who seems totally clueless, as so many men are when it comes to women. Although it seems brutal, the article is funny, as are Harry's comments in parentheses.

But I'd like for you to read this and see how many different ways this poor schumck goes wrong. The poor sap is in an city where you can't swing a cat without hitting a prostitute, yet he is constantly alone, frustrated, and taken advantage of. The same sort of syndrome occurs right here in the US, with thwarted losers striking out with women, but having no idea why.

(Last thing, Chow King is like a Philippine MacDonald's, and Santos Street is notoriously known as "Blow Row" because the girls who work there specialize in oral sex.)

The following story was forwarded to me by a reader of this column. My comments are in itallics.

Hello Mr. Harry:

Thank you for your free monthly newsletter that gets posted online. Since discovering it, I read the back issues up to June 2004. (Dear Prisonmate - now I hate to deal with nick-names but will let it slide. Your comments are a bit long so I have used editorial license to try and shorten it. After reading your comments I tend to think that you did not make too many good choices when selecting ladies to be with. It seems your trip was taken up with trying to get a good nights sleep and finding "that special lady", both of which seemed to elude you. I strongly recommend that you return for another visit and forget the "chat ladies" who are usually knee deep in bullshit and just enjoy the many Clubs that can offer you a wide selection of companions who will not be shy and can be fairly talkative). I am in Angeles now but will be leaving tomorrow. I know you love this town and I thought maybe you would like to hear one of your thousand reader's viewpoint on Angeles.

I arrived early last Thursday morning around 8AM and checked in to Central Park Hotel. (Excellent Manager Rose and Front Desk Staff, if they were barfineable, I would never have had to visit the bars, LOL) To get rid of the jet lag, I tried to sleep but could not (maybe it was due to the excitement of being here) so I went out to visit one on my Chat mates I met on 2matchu.com. She works in one of the Short Time Bars on Santos Street. Very sweet girl but very shy when she saw me face to face. (I know it's hard to believe a girl on Santos Street being shy, LOL, but she is a sweet girl). (you're right, it is VERY difficult to believe - please provide name of bar so a few hundred readers can check to see if she is still "shy".) I realize now it is different when chatting online versus seeing people you know face to face. Without any conversation as she could not face me, I felt uncomfortable making her uncomfortable so I just told her I'll be back later to see her again. For some reason, I never did. (Good decision)

However, the heat and humidity was getting to me and I returned to the hotel. Back in the hotel room, I still could not sleep so I went online and saw another chat mate online at 2matchu.com. Told her I was here and she was shocked I am really here so we make plans to meet the next day when her sister is also available. Now this girl is also very sweet but not a bar girl so I understand we had to be chaperone. Thirty min later she text she can not meet the next day but can we meet now. Her sister was not available but it was okay with her to meet alone. (the chaperone bit was bullshit - believe me, she had a plan). So she meet me at JJ Market and I took her to Chow king that was next door. Nice sweet girl but not talkative. I can tell she is shy but don't know why, am I too old for her? Decided to cut lunch (just had halo halo) short and say good bye. Was surprised she said yes when I asked her if she likes to go to hotel room with me. Same thing happened in room, no conversation, (Man, this is getting boring) so I cut the visit short and escorted her out and said good-bye. (Ah Hah, another good move)

Two in a row, shy girls. Maybe it was the lack of sleep, but I am losing patience. Tried to sleep again and still can't. Decided to try walking and making myself tired by going as far as I can. I went all the way to the Blue Boar Inn. I asked to see you but you were not in. (Damn, I missed a drink and conversation). The walk was good as it gave me a perspective of the distance on Wayne's ACmap. Man, what a walk. Good exercise but the humidity was getting to me. Won't do this again. By the time I got back to Hotel I was ready for my second shower of the day. Maybe I can sleep now.NOPE, now it is the construction noise coming from across the street where they are building an extension of Swiss Chalet Hotel. I can not live like this. So I got up again and started looking at hotels around the area for another hotel if available. Try the Royal Amsterdam and Natalie Apartelle and a few others. Only Royal Amsterdam has LAN in room. (Not true, there are others, including the Hotel La Casa/Blue Boar Inn). After informing Central Park of my plans to move out, Manager Rose was very nice and offered to move to another room. I told her I will wait and see how the noise is tomorrow. Ended up not moving after all as I figure Rose was so nice to check me in early without charging me. (Hey, they were not stupid, no way did they want to lose a customer especially since the construction noise was not under their control - most hotel managers in town will do their best to keep a customer happy - Rose did a good job, Roselle should give herself a bonus).

By 6PM, still no sleep, but it was getting closer to night when the bars started opening. Did not want to rush things so I started going to bars on Real Street. I would go in and look around and see if anything attracts me and then leave without buying a drink, takes only a min or less doing this (you are fast). By the time I got to my sixth bar, it was the Geckos. I had planned the same routine of going in and out BUT this time this one girl grab me and hug me rubbing her body against me. How can I say no to that? Not only that but she looks like a co-worker I worked with. She was one fun and sexy thing. No shyness from her. Bought her a lady drink and things were going good. All the other girls were encouraging me to barfine her so I did. (just think, if she had not tackled you when you entered you could have made a clean escape)

Now I consider myself a great body language reader and I noticed she was not as happy as before I barfined her. It was not obvious for other layman (believe me, it would be obvious to 99% of the visitors here) but I could see a slight change in her attitude. I realize now she was a little fearful, nervous, and unsure cause I called her bluff and barfined her. Think, if you were her, she was safe in the bar but now she is going out with a stranger (surprise, surprise, that is her job). Depending on her past experience with other barfines, this could be a good or bad thing.

Went back to the hotel and had a good session with her. We talked and I asked her about her family and life. I wanted her to feel comfortable with me. After our session, she turned on the TV and translated some Tagalog show she wanted to watch. I am not as young as I used to be so it was fine with me as I could not go another round so fast. Plus I don't take drugs like Viagra, maybe I should (LOL) but I just don't. Then she said she is leaving because she cannot sleep in a strange bed (Hee - Hee, excuse me while I laugh my ass off at this one). I don't consider this as a runner as nothing was agreed upon on length of stay. Plus if she did not want to stay, I did not want her to stay either. She is not a slave and free to go whenever she want (Mate, after paying an EWR it is kind of understood that it will be an all nighter but all too often this is not the case).

While online I checked my Yahoo IM, and another Chat mate was also online (how many of these flaky chatmates do you have?). Now I was desperate (I can imagine) to talk to someone so I asked her to meet me. She was agreeable and I met her at 2matchU Café and we walked to a Live Band Show on McArther Highway but the music was too loud to talk so we took a trike to Chow King (Again! Next time try Spencer's). We talked for three hours there and it was good for me. Would of talked more but my throat was getting tired (See, you talk too much) so I walked back to McArthur Highway and made sure she was safe taking a jeepney (did you give her jeepney fare?).

Went back to hotel and finally fell asleep even if it was for two hours. Memory lapse here now so I think all I did was surf the net, ate lunch at Red Sea (finally, a good choice) and walked around the bars planning my attack for the night. By the luck of fate, my next barfine was a Cherrygirl at Confettis (oh boy, I'm beginning to get sick). Now I thought I would never barfine a Cherry Girl, but as long as I can do everything I want except full intercourse I was okay with that. Now these Cherry Girls were very cute and I picked the curtest. First Mistake there. She was not talkative (here we go again, man these girls are not even high school graduates and you want to talk). But my little head was thinking and not my big head. Treated her like a girlfriend but after our session, I can tell she was not comfortable being in the same room so I offered to take her back to the bar.

The next night when I went to see her to say hi, she did not even acknowledge me. Like I was no one. I guess I was no one to her. Lesson here, don't expect them to return any feeling toward you. It's a job and only a job for some of them. (It could be that she just did not like you or hated your conversation or maybe the word was out that you only take the ladies to Chow King to eat).The next day I had Lunch at Magarita Station. If you like flies and no A/C, then this is the place to go (Actually, Margarita Station is quite popular and has good food, well, a fly or two may be seen but it adds to the ambience). Went to Robinson Mall in the afternoon. They had a talent contest there. And the music was blasting everywhere in the mall. Poorly design mall as clean and cool it may be on the inside, it's not that impressive. Looks like most of the stores are food related. Looks like 90% food related. (Don't complain, they have a Chow King there).

At night I meet a Chatmate I did not attend to meet. She was working at one of the clubs but decided she did not want to dance anymore. How true this is, only she knows. Oh well. She saw me online and chatted with me and I gave her my cell number. We met at Chowking (Gee, what a surprise) and I offered her the amount of barfine I would of pay the bar if she was still working there (Want to bet the bar never saw their share?). She accepted it and I guess she needed the money (no shit!). After our session, I walk her to Fields to make sure she was safe. Sweet and shy girl, hard to believe she was a dancer (She just finished an acting class).

Now before meeting her, I was already sleeping because I was not finding the bars all that enjoyable for my own reasons. So I was calling it a night. But since she texted, I said why not, maybe this is the one. She wasn't the "one" but she was a sweet girl that was out of work. The next day she text me again. I text her to meet me at ChowKing (I notified Chow King and they are sending you a letter of appreciation). It was 2PM and very hot. She ordered a halo halo. Her English was limited so we did not talk much. I was not going to boom boom her again. But I wanted to help her so I quietly gave her 1500 pesos (how sweet, she will treasure the memory for at least 12 hours, until chatmate number 35 shows up) as a token of our friendship and left it at that.

The next day I lost all memories except I tried to catch up on my sleep. I did go out a few times to the bars and drank water while buying a few ladies drinks but just no excitement. Went back to the hotel alone, realizing how poor these people are and wondering if I am not contributing to their fate. (boy, am I sorry I did not get to meet you, maybe I could have advised you on how to change your modus operandi. I hope you will have a better time on your next visit. Better still, stay home, buy a book teaching CONVERSATIONAL TAGALOG, study it and then try a repeat visit).

Prisonmate

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Political Action Guide, Part 2: The Family

In my first installment on political action for men, I addressed the area of economic justice. Essentially, you have the right to keep what you make and create, and to the extent that the government takes money from you, whether through taxation or regulation, it keeps you from living the life you’re capable of living. Money is the key to a hundred doors, giving you access to sex, better health, leisure, and greater comfort.

The next arena for political action is in the realm of the family. Here, the government not only takes a man’s money unfairly, but also his children.

Marriage, Divorce, and Custody

No Spouse Is Entitled to Property or Income Earned Before the Marriage

If I marry Oprah, I am not entitled to half of the millions she’s earned, nor do I have any claim to anything she has worked so hard to build, from her production company, her TV show, her magazine, her home, or other holdings. How obvious can the Anna Nicole Smith ruse be, marry some old codger and collect half of everything by simply walking out? And if she’s lucky, the old coot will die and she’ll get it all.


Honor Prenuptial Agreements

If both parties are sane and aware of what they’re signing, there is no reason why a prenup shouldn’t be honored, just like any other contract. The prenup is a key tool for men to protect their assets and limit the downside in the aftermath of the inevitable divorce. If you have qualms about a prenuptial agreement, maybe you should take it as an omen not to get married.


No Presumption of Alimony

It is assumed that a woman is entitled to alimony payments, but in an era in which women can and do work, and earn as much if not more than men do, what entitles a woman to cash payments? Alimony payments should be temporary, designed to give a woman a chance to get set up on her own (apartment, car, moving expenses) until such time as she can get employment.


Presumption of Joint Custody

Intellectulaconservative.com says it best:

The first thing you need to be aware of is this: The laws and family court system are not set up fairly towards fathers. The laws are set up to award custody to the parent who has had the most involvement so far raising the child, which means the parent who has worked the least - this is virtually always the mother. This usually guarantees that the mother will receive custody of the child, and since child support is mandatory, that you will be paying several hundred dollars in child support to her each month. Now does this make sense?

It only makes sense in the past, when you were still together – in a typical relationship, the mother worked less because she stayed at home more with the children; therefore it made sense at that time that she was with the children the majority of the time. But after you have both split up, and she no longer has the option of working less hours, and in fact must get a job that will most likely pay less than yours, why should she still be seen as more fit to take care of the children? If she is working full-time (or should be, since she is now single), and making less money than you, how does that qualify her as a better parent than you? If she is working full-time, she won't be able to spend any more time with the child than you if you are working full-time.

Before a man is hit with child support payments, he should have the option of raising the children. Typically, the father is paying for children that he rarely sees. If the mother does not want the father to have primary custody, then joint custody should be the next option. Again, when women have fought for equal rights to work and to earn as much as a man, why is it assumed that the man will always pay child support? In my case, I paid child support when my daughter lived with her mother, but when my daughter lived with me, I received nothing, even though my ex-wife earns as much as I do.


Enforce Visitation Rights

As a man, if you're a nanosecond late in making a support payment you can expect to see the black helicopters overhead. On the other hand, the courts are unconcerned whether or not a father supporting his children is actually allowed visitation. This shouldn't be, and it's another example of how "deadbeat dads" are actually created by a system gone wrong.

Child Support Should Be Based Upon the Child’s Needs and Actual Costs

Child support is always a percentage of the father’s income, without regard to how much money the child needs, or is actually spent on the child. Dennis Rodman is an example of a man paying thousands of dollars a month: for his ex-girlfriend, all she had to do was get pregnant in order to win the lottery. Dennis is not alone.


Child Support and Alimony Payments Should Be Tax-Deductible

We hear so much of the “deadbeat dad,” yet fathers are not rewarded (or even just treated fairly) when they support their children. I paid thousands in child support each year, but could not claim my daughter as a tax deduction. Now I don’t expect a gold medal, but my taxes should reflect the fact that I am supporting my child.

What? The BTK Killer Was Married?!!

When people discover that the BTK killer was married, their reaction is one of bewilderment, and they assume the headcocked pose of the dog in the Victrola ad, "He hears his master's voice." How could a serial killer or rapist be married? Particularly a rapist, since all of a man's sexual needs are taken care of by marriage?

Honestly, I didn't know whether or not the BTK killer was married, but I guessed that he was. How was I able to divine this? Do I have psychic skills?

No, I'm not psychic. First of all, everybody gets married. Why be a bachelor when you can join all of the millions of lemmings rushing headlong into the matrimonial abyss? Even the guy with a rabbit fetish is going to get married. A rabbit fetish is one thing, but if you're a lifelong bachelor, something is seriously wrong with you.

Second, I am no longer surprised when serial rapists/killers are married; in fact I expect it. "The phrase "serial killer" evokes the images of the spooky loner, too detached and twisted to marry and raise children. The reality, however, is that serial killers have often been family men, according to Harley Stock, an expert on such murderers." According to this source, 60% of rapists are married men. It is my contention that marriage does not so much meet a man's sexual needs as it creates a state of indifference to sex, so it is hardly surprising that there are plenty of married men seeking other outlets, whether pornography, masturbation, prostitution, molestation or rape.

Political Action Guide for Men: Economic Justice

The goal of political action is to keep the government from taking money, property and freedom from men. Everything that a man creates should be his, and the government that takes one penny more than needed is robbing the man it takes money from.

Men should advocate the following positions, while supporting candidates and parties that promote the following principles:

Economic Freedom: Government should take as little as possible from a man.


Limited Government and Low Taxation

The larger a government is, the more money it needs to support itself. Taxes take a man’s earnings and limit growth. If you’ve heard of the military buying $400 hammers and the inefficiency of the post office, the government spends money less efficiently than the private sector, because they are spending someone else’s money. The less money in the hands of the government, the more robust the economy. Look at Cuba and the former Soviet Union, where the government has all of the money, and men in those countries (who were not members of the elite ruling party) lived in misery.


Reasonable Immigration Policy, Strictly Enforced

Unlimited immigration depresses wages. Dolts will respond, “Yes, but Americans won’t do those jobs.” Wrong. Read Of Mice and Men, in which two white males are migrant farm workers. What happens when well-educated, English speaking workers start coming en masse from India? Morons will repeat the same cliché, “We need the Indians because Americans won’t do those jobs, like nurse, doctor, journalist, computer programmer, teacher, accountant, etc.”

Not all nationalities are equal. Immigrants from countries with high rates of crime, whose immigrants are prone to go onto welfare, and that are hotbeds of terrorism should be prohibited. (See Thomas Sowell at http://www.jewishworldreview.com/cols/sowell081605.asp)


Social Security Reform

A man should own his own retirement savings plan. Savings should not be taxed, neither should dividend income. The current Social Security program is just a Ponzi, or pyramid scheme. Eventually the program will implode, and millions of people will get screwed. Private savings programs are infinitely preferable to the current mess, and only political considerations keep anyone from stating the obvious: the Social Security program is fatally flawed, and will inevitably crash and burn.


Low Regulation

Regulation is just a form of hidden taxation. Government fees, compliance costs, costs for lawyers and accountants –all of these are hidden taxes imposed by the government. For instance, a man with a car used to be able to earn money just by writing “taxi” on a sheet of paper and posting it on his vehicle. When cities regulate taxis, the price goes up, and the little guy gets crowded out. The car rental business boomed when the price of taxis got out of control. Licenses costing tens of thousands of dollars are purchased by the wealthy, who don’t even work, but rent out taxis to immigrants, who are the only people desperate to take lousy work at often lousy pay. Look, the guy in a three-piece suit is not going to get into a car that has “taxi” written on it in fingernail polish, so there is room for everybody, from the budget do-it-yourselfer to the luxury limo service. (After all, a limo is just a very expensive taxi.)


Eliminate Welfare

It is wrong for the government to steal money from one man to give it to someone else. When the government makes transfer payments, robbing one man to give to another, money is typically taken from a hard-working man and given to non-workers, such as street bums, pregnant teen sluts, drunks and drug addicts who are diagnosed as having “diseases,” lazy people with fake disabilities, etc. Not only is this unfair, but it is counterproductive, because when people find out they can get money not from honest work, but by getting drunk, using drugs, getting pregnant, feigning insanity, and faking illnesses, don’t be surprised when they quit working and start behaving in ways that make easy money.

When honest workers see their money being stripped from them and given to scammers, then who wants to work? My friend from Australia was just such a guy: after years of hard work in which he fought the government like a boxer on the ropes, he finally got wise and got himself a disability. Once he was "disabled," he was in a trap where the more he earned, the more the government took, so he still works, but for cash paid under the table.

Let’s not be naive: if you give me $50 to help crippled orphans, well, hey, I need lunch –including a couple of rum and sodas—I have transportation expenses, and in view of all that I am sacrificing for the good of humanity by spending your money, I’m certainly entitled to a salary. Whatever is leftover goes to the legless kid living behind the trash bin. So this is cynical, and sickens you? Well, every time you feel an outburst of compassion, it’s payday for me. We must all keep in mind that no matter how noble the intended cause, money gets sucked up by government overhead and bureaucrats. If you don’t like a particular charity, such as Jack Daniels for the Homeless, you simply stop giving. On the other hand, stop giving money to the government, and black-clad SWAT team members who read too many Sgt. Rock comics as kids will come crashing through your window.

Time for Political Action?

My blog has a single focus: to empower men. I want men to lead better lives.

I feel strongly about this, very strongly, so much that it motivates me to write, because I have been there, where going to work every day was just another bout of humiliation and frustration, like being kicked in the crotch. I remember scraping together change for a beer, and how tight money was at the end of the month. Then there was the feeling of stalking the streets as the Invisible Man: women couldn’t even see me, and the rare relationship was with an industrial strength bitch, and an overall hellish experience. Rejection was so common, so seemingly inevitable that I gave up, and retreated into a world of pornography and prostitution, which were my solace in addition to the alcohol I drank every moment I was not at work. My marriage had blown up, and the only thing keeping me from killing myself was a daughter I was raising by myself.

I know I am not alone. And I don’t want you to go there. Instead I have the crazy idea that my life can be filled with winning, and money, and sex, power, and respect. I’m going to go wherever those aims take me.

Up until now my focus has always been on personal action, in other words, what you can do right now to improve your life. Other movements like the Promise Keepers are social movements, and the women’s movement was also social and political. The Black Panther movement and the Chicano movement, which sought justice and fairness for particular groups were also political movements. I have avoided the idea of political action because results depend upon the actions of others , such as politicians, judges and voters. Political action also seeks to impose solutions upon others. Remember, politics is ultimately about the law, which is enforced by people with guns. On the other hand, if you don’t like my ideas, you can choose not to read my blog, without any repercussions.

But I have begun to consider political action. In the Philippines I spoke with a tourist from Australia who related to me a lifetime filled with hardship and pain, despite the fact that he worked hard and did what was “right.” Sure, he might have avoided those problems through personal actions (which is where my chief focus always lies), but I saw clearly for the first time how he was wronged by a legal system. There exists in Australia (and it is uncanny to me how similar Australia is to the U.S.) a system of laws and government policies that continually oppressed this man, and yes, I know the word “oppress” is overused to the point of becoming cliché. This man is nearly 60 now, and has decades of rage that he can barely contain.

I really don’t know where to start: the issues are so large, and so firmly entrenched in American culture. It’s like trying to advocate the legalization of drugs: people reflexively reject the idea and assume that I’m a drug user. I’m not. The problem is a social blindness, an inability to discuss certain issues. And if you start to consider the laws here in the U.S., you see that they are stacked against men.

My next post will outline political/legal changes that I believe will empower men, if not just restore long overdue fairness.

Kate Hudson: What Is Obvious, But Can't Be Said

Kate Hudson makes the obvious, yet taboo observation:

She says, "I don't believe (monogamy) is realistic. But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen. I will not disrespect my husband and stray.

"If (he's been unfaithful) I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught."

"Monogamy is not realistic." How true, especially since her husband is a rock star, not a part-time Wal-Mart employee schlepp. If you read the book "The Myth of Monogamy" you will find that monogamy does not exist in the animal kingdom, even in species that were previously thought to be strictly monogamous.

"But we have the power to make it happen." But what is the purpose? The key to my philosophy is that humans have certain inborn drives and instinctive desires; you can try to fight them, but you will almost always fail, and be miserable in the process.

"If he's been unfaithful, I don't want to know." This sort of realistic view of the nature of men once was prevalent, and facilitated marriage. Men are designed to "stray." Marriage frustrates the natural sexual inclinations of men. There once existed a tacit understanding that a husband might might have his occasional dalliance, as long as he was discreet and did not abandon or threaten the family. But now that a single "indiscretion" can blow up a marriage and a family, it's no wonder that more marriages end in divorce.

Sex Tips

From Men's Health Philippines, July and August 2005:

Give her a "bigasm." The theory is that women have more intense orgasms if simultaneously stimulated both at the clitoris and the G spot.

The following position worked well for couples in a study of this technique: With her on top, she straddles you so that the she is rubbing the shaft of your penis against her clitoris, while the tip of your penis is hitting her G spot.

Orgasms via this method are said to be very intense.

Also: "Pour peppermint schnapps into her belly button. Sip it. Kiss her breasts and then blow on the spots you kissed. The peppermint schnapps and and air will cause a cool sensation that will heighten arousal..."

What a Girl Costs Site

The founders of whatagirlcosts.com should receive a Nobel Prize for their service to humanity. The site allows men to track how much money they spend on their girlfriends, plus how much time they spend on the phone, compared to how much sex they get.

My only suggestion is that they have a separate site for married men, and yet one more for divorced men. The costs to date a woman are a pittance compared to the costs of marriage and divorce, not to mention the fact that in a marriage a man is paying out the ass for less and less sex, and what sex he does get is of poor quality. It's like paying far more for a frozen burrito or a month-old corndog at Johnny Quick than steak and lobster at a four star restaurant.

Don Knotts: Prime Marriage Material

In this post I wrote the following:

The ugly reality is that women don't marry the most attractive men, because they're afraid the best-looking men will cheat. So women marry clueless dorks who they figure will stick around and pay the bills, because these Nice Guy losers don't have any sexual options. And you wonder why she isn't interested in sex, Mr. Mom?

My assertion is corroborated by this article, which states, in part:

The research once again confirms a hypothesis that beauty is not merely in the eye of the beholder: it is an indicator of genetic fitness. From a choice of computer-generated faces, volunteers routinely choose the most symmetrical as the most attractive.
Physical symmetry is interpreted as a sign of good inheritance. And therefore, the theory goes, women in a position to conceive would be more attracted to someone more likely to engender the healthiest offspring.

In other words, beauty is not subjective. People across all cultures tend to agree on who is the most attractive. Men are more likely than women to choose the most physically attractive partners. (Attractive meaning symmetrical, or balanced; people whose features match on both sides of their bodies, people who are not "lopsided.")

While men are geared to weigh physical attractiveness (looks, youth and beauty) most heavily, women are more likely to look at a man's income, status, and personality traits. Attractive physical traits in men are more along the lines of strength, dominance and assertiveness (such as bushy eyebrows that give men a stern expression), rather than sheer facial attractiveness.

But women are less likely to choose attractive men because they are afraid pretty boys will cheat. Women know that really attractive men are more likely to play the field and are less likely to commit themselves to a family. The article expresses this concept as follows:

It happens throughout the animal kingdom: males attract by displaying badges of their genetic qualities. But the best-looking sexual partners may not turn out to be the most loyal and attentive fathers. Other evidence shows that the most attractive males may be less faithful. So many women are happy to share their lives with specimens from the awkward squad and, the New Mexico scientists argue, indulge a few lascivious yearnings at the appropriate time each month.


Which leads us to the old bait and switch: Women marry a guy like Ritchie Cunningham or Don Knotts, often only after they've screwed biker boy meth dealer, Neanderthal sports jock, and pot smoker rock star types, and borne their children. These women eventually get old, and fat and haggard, and now are desperate enough to marry the Nice Guys they spat on for all those years.

Even worse, women marry the guy they know is dull, and desperate, and dutiful enough to stick it out, no matter how much the poor ox is abused. So when she has an affair with some 14 year old schoolboy stud, any guy dumb enough to get married, a guy too stupid to see that he has been set up, is also likely to say something like this, in a manner no more thoughtful than the direction a chicken runs once its head has been cut off:

Afterwards Mr Grice, 34, said he would stand by his wife and questioned whether the case should have been brought to court. He said: "I stood at the altar with my wife and said, 'In sickness and in health and for better or for worse'. I will stand by those vows I took."

Observe how the church, and concepts of duty and responsibility are used to enslave this poor dolt so he will continue to work his ass off for a sick, faithless bitch.

He said the opportunity for the crimes was limited because of his "erratic" work patterns, and his wife's after-school activities. He dismissed the boy's allegations as "schoolboy fantasies".
He added: "I'm a family man and the most difficult thing for me is going back to explain to my daughters, one of whose birthday is next week… why her mum is not going to be there."

This guy's brainwashing is so thorough that he is in denial about his wife's screwing around, even after he busts the pimply faced stud hiding in his closet!

"I'm a family man." I can think of no more suitable epitaph.

Do It Now

I hope you read yesterday's post on getting muscular and are taking action. At the very least, you need to be actively involved in some sort of fitness program.

You are going to get old. I know when you're 20, the age of 30 seems old, and you can't imagine that you'll ever be 60. But some day you will be 60 years old, unless... I think of the old George Burns joke: "I'm not happy about turning 80, but it sure beats the alternative."

My father is now in his seventies, and he's about to undergo radiation treatments. He suffers from diabetes, high blood pressure, recurring skin cancer, and now another slowly progressing cancer.

There are two lessons from my father:

1. Get Into Shape You're going to get old. Right now at 18 you can get away with eating whatever you want, binge drinking, and not working out, but the older you get, your body begins to slow down. I was skinny as a pencil in high school, so it was quite a shock to me when I said to myself, "Hey, I'm getting fat." I remember speaking with the late Grandmaster Leo Giron, then in his late seventies or eighties, who said, "I want to work out, but my body fights me."

So much suffering in the form of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, various cancers, physically shrinking like the Wicked Witch of the East in the showers, and the overall daily feeling of having been run over by a marching band --all of these are lessened, if not outright avoided, by a regular fitness program.

2. Do It Now If you're waiting for retirement to start traveling or living your life, it may be too late. I see guys in the Philippines who look like cadavers, walking with a zombie's lurching, shuffling gait. These guys look like they're in a dance marathon with the Grim Reaper --you know, the old contests where couples would dance together for several days without sleep.

Have you seen the old Star Trek episode where Spock hijacks the Enterprise so that he can take a decrepit former captain to a planet? Years ago, the captain had been on that planet with a young, vivacious lady (or so he thought), including the infamous "blue chick." But now that he's shrivelled up, mute, and bound to a wheelchair, now he's ready to go back.

Don't wait to get into shape and to live out your dreams. Do it now.

Muscle Bound

The July 2005 issue of Men's Health, Philippines cites a study of 325 college-age women that found "for short-term dating they prefer a lean, well-muscled man...For a long-term relationship they want a guy beefier than average."

"For sexual partners, they rated average bodies as somewhat desirable, muscular men as very desirable, and extremely muscular men somewhere in between. Least desirable: soft, fat guys."

Furthermore, "women associate pronounced muscularity with:

• dominance
• sexiness
• sexual ability and skill
• popularity
• ability to acquire resources and provide protection
• health and genetic fitness
• money and ambition"

I have seen some weasels attempt to downplay this study, because one of the "downsides" of being muscular is that while you may get lots of sex, women are hesitant to marry you! The ugly reality is that women don't marry the most attractive men, because they're afraid the best-looking men will cheat. So women marry clueless dorks who they figure will stick around and pay the bills, because these Nice Guy losers don't have any sexual options. And you wonder why she isn't interested in sex, Mr. Mom?

For years I was a skinny guy who couldn't figure out why I was a leper on the dating scene. My ex-wife used to try to dress me up in bulky sweaters, but I didn't know why.

Remember the Triangle: there are three critical areas of your life, all of them interdependent and interacting with each other. The three areas are: career/financial, physical (including sexual), and social/personal. If you neglect your body, every other area of your life will suffer, but if you develop yourself, you will prosper in every other facet of your life.

For example, Men's Health also reports that a study of men over the age of 55 found out that "those who exercised regularly lost significantly less brain tissue as they aged than men who exercised rarely or not at all." It's really not all in your head --your mind and your body are interrelated.

So how do you go about gaining muscle? Let me share my current program and thinking.

1. Eat One Hour Before You Lift
2. Do at Least a 5 Minute Aerobic Workout Before You Lift You need to boost bloodflow to your muscles before you lift.
3. Do One Set of the Heaviest Weight You Can Lift You are looking for a weight that you can lift somewhere between 3-7 times. A study by British researchers showed that a single set gets the same muscle-building results as doing multiple sets. (In other words, lifting a weight 7 times only, rather than lifting seven times, resting, lifting another seven, resting, etc.) But the single set workout has the advantage of burning twice as much fat.
4. Concentrate on the Eccentric Phase Too many lifters push out on an exercise like the bench press, for instance, then let the weights drop as they bring the weight down. The lowering of the weights or returning the weight in toward the body is called the eccentric phase of a lift, and it is this portion that is often neglected. You see guys at the gym with the bad habit of letting weights slam onto the ground or the stack, and bouncing weights. Try lowering the weight more slowly than you lifted it: this helps to build muscle. Since too many people go all-out on the push/lift phase, and do little on the lowering/eccentric phase, it is easy for you to double your workout efficiency with the same weight and number of reps just by concentrating on the eccentric phase. (My talks with champion football coach Rich also confirm this principle.)
5. Increase Your Weight or Reps Every Workout Doing the same weight week in, week out, means that your muscle development will stagnate and you'll see no gains. You don't have to kill yourself: even if the gains are small, still aim for them. If you can't increase your workout, you need more rest between workouts.
6. Use Creatine and Drink Plenty of Water on Lift Days
7. Stretch for 5 Minutes After You Lift

I also listen to my body. If my chest is sore, I don't do chest exercises. If I haven't recovered from the last session, I wait another day. If I don't feel like I'm really working a muscle group, I'll do extra sets, or try a different exercise that works the same muscle group.

(Note: The man in the photos above is Steve Reeves, one of the greatest bodybuilders who ever lived, and a role model for Arnold Schwarzenegger. Stevereeves.com has the following eye-opening quote: Sylvester Stallone walked out of the theater after seeing Hercules and couldn't believe what he had just seen. He said to himself," Sly do want to be a bum or be like Steve Reeves". He decided to follow Steve doing action films. )

That is really the question for the day: Do you want to be a bum or do you want to be like Steve Reeves?

Why I Oppose Gay Marriage

How sadly ironic, that Lincoln --who dedicated his life to freeing slaves-- is used to advocate the expansion of marriage.













1. Two Gay Men Would Have Common Interests

A marriage is about two people with little in common deciding to spend their entire lives together. A wife bitches about her husband watching sports and porn, and drinking beer, and then tries to drag him on shopping sprees. She tries to get him to “change” and then is disappointed when he doesn’t. While a wife may pretend to enjoy sex in order to get a man to marry, gay men have common sexual desires.


2. One Gay Partner Cannot Suddenly Get Pregnant

In a real marriage, a woman can get pregnant at any time without her husband’s consent. She is now entitled to stay at home, or leave and force him to support the child. The child doesn’t even have to be the husband’s child, and yet he is still obligated to pay for the child for the next 18 years. In a gay marriage, no child can be brought into the home and neither partner can be forced to support a child without both men’s consent and prior agreement.


3. There Is No Presumption of Custody

The mother is reflexively awarded custody, regardless of whether she is drunk, addicted, adulterous, etc. In a gay marriage, custody decisions would be based on an evaluation of the facts and merit.


4. There Is No Presumption of Child Support Payments

Following the preceding item, no gay partner could easily assume that he would automatically be granted custody. In a heterosexual marriage, a man knows for a certainty that he will be hit with child support payments, just as surely as the wife can bank on collecting them.


5. There Is No Presumption of Alimony

It is assumed that a divorced man is supposed to give money to his ex-wife (Talk about adding insult to injury!), but in a gay marriage, why would one man be forced to give money to another?


6. There Is No Presumption That for One Spouse Work Is an Option

In a heterosexual marriage, while the wife can decide whether or not to work, it is taken for granted that the husband will work to support her. Her freedom to decide whether or not to work comes at the husband’s expense, and the full economic burden falls on him. It is particularly stressful for the husband if the wife decides to get pregnant without his consent as a means of staying home, for now he not only has lost her income, but the financial strain on the family has dramatically increased. In a gay marriage, it is not automatically assumed that one partner will always work, while for the other work is an option.


7. There Is Little Potential for Economic Exploitation

Women almost always marry a wealthier man, yet men almost never marry for monetary considerations. Given the lack of alimony, custody, and child support presumptions, the whole concept of marriage as a money-making opportunity tends to disappear in a gay marriage. Again, with both partners working, the greater the likelihood that a division of joint property will be equitable.

In short, with two gay men in a home, you have two people with common interests, with no hidden economic or sexual agendas, no assumption that one partner will foot the bill for the other and very little possibility that one will get financially screwed; In what sense is that a marriage?

The real question is: Why would two gay men want to get married? It has been said that marriage is the price men pay to be heterosexual. For a gay man to try to willingly enter the realm of marriage is like a free Negro moving to the slave states or a Jew signing up for Dachau. I think the chief reason gays seek marriage is to gain society’s approval and acceptance.

I am in favor of men living together. (See also here.) Two heterosexual men planned to get married under Canada’s new Constitutional interpretation allowing gay marriage, but recently backed out.


Thought for the day:

What are the legal and financial benefits of getting married?

From a legal and economic standpoint, how is being married better than being single?

Could You Get By On Just $70,000 a Month?

At a posh nightclub, Rachel Hunter and four friends helped themselves to liquor and spicy chicken wings reserved for the evening's "entertainers." (I put the word "entertainers" in quotes because they are rappers.) Furthermore, she was indignant when she was shooed away from someone else's food, like a dog that has helped itself to the Thanksgiving turkey, only a dog might be excused for not knowing any better.

This is the same woman who --with a straight face, I suppose-- sought 35 million British pounds, an amount that represented half of ex-husband Rod Stewart's fortune.

What makes this arrogant bitch worthy of a free plate of chicken wings, let alone 35 million pounds (63 million US dollars)? The fact that she's good-looking?

What talent does Rachel Hunter have, other than the ability to stand still with her lips or legs parted while a photo is snapped?

This is not an isolated case. Try this:

The woman is Narissa Bradford, 41, an American model who came to Milan some years ago as a poor girl from Starkville, Mississippi, with $500 and a shopping bag full of her belongings. Between modeling gigs she snagged the attention of Franco Colosio, 54, who had inherited a half-billion dollar supermarket chain and built it up to three times that value.

She was only a friend, says Colosio, but Bradford says she can "prove" otherwise from a decade's worth of receipts. She says that she paid all his bills for him and managed his accounts, as indicated by his giving her carte blanche with his credit cards and a $65,000 a month allowance. Hey, she may have smoothed her lines with Botox, but we can still read between them: she is asking for spending money now to compensate for her onerous task of spending his money for ten years. Unless, of course, she was applying the secret Starksville Accounting Method that his experience in expanding a billion-dollar company could not duplicate.

Once they drifted apart he agreed to pay her $70,000 a month "to avoid legal action." After a year, he stopped, thus forcing her hand. Astonishingly, she offers this as an argument on her behalf: a year of successful extortion entitles her to continue. Apparently she found her knight in shining armor -- in a suit of black mail.

Honestly, I can't imagine how I could spend $70,000 a month, even if I and the Captain Morgan people were on a first name basis. But here we have another woman, who for no other reason than having hit the genetic lottery at birth, somehow believes she is entitled to some other man's chicken wings, booze, and fortune.

But what is really mortifying is the idea that conservatives would support palimony suits in order to force men into marriage. The same author explains:

The first reaction of many conservative types is to revel in the morality play of the mistress who turns into Miss Stress. They may also think that making dalliance as expensive as alliance will eliminate a key disincentive for marriage, thus strengthening that societal institution.

Too many men buy into this decrepit thinking; that a woman, just by virtue of the fact that she is good-looking, is thereby entitled to free dinners, amounting to little more than high class food stamps, as well as free movies, clothing, purses, shopping sprees, flowers, and an entire lifetime of support --something like a Sexual Security program.

Perhaps you remember my earlier post in which a married woman was upset because she learned she was going to have to work! What man says, "Oh man, I've been married for two years and just this week I found out I'm going to have to start working"?

On Becoming an Alpha Male

A reader asks, "How do I become an Alpha Male?" I believe this is the most important question a man will ever ask himself, next to, What do I need in order to be happy?" The difference between Alpha and Beta Male is the difference between happiness and misery, power and subjugation, control and helplessness. I will adress this issue in more detail later, but let me start by pointing you toward previous posts I have made on the subject.


See this post on how Alpha Males not only do not fear conflict with women, but welcome it.

How Beta Males are invisible, but Alpha Males are confident and prominent.

How Alpha Males get away with murder.

The Alpha Male is largely a physical phenomenon.

Even ministers are Alpha Males, and thus immune from the rules.

Beta Males through their fawning behavior enable Alpha Males.

Alpha Males and seduction.

The biological basis of Alpha Male dominance.

Why some apparent Alpha males are miserable.

Beta Males are exploited and their talent ignored in the workplace.

Steps toward being an Alpha Male. More here.

More Breast Problems

Some of you may have thought my post about Christians' problems with Jessica Simpsons' breasts was grossly exagerrated.

Apparently a woman has called to complain about the breasts on this mermaid statue. This article goes on to detail how former Attorney General John Ashcroft covered the bare breast of a statue in his workplace.

I am not about to pile onto to poor John, who endured enough abuse. Just let me point out that I am certain that John Ashcroft, evangelical Christian, will emphatically state that sex is a beautiful, wondrous creation of God, meant to be enjoyed solely by wedded couples.

Yet John cannot work near a "naked" statue, whose siren call ("Look at my bare breast, John!") must have sorely tempted him toward the rocky shores of lust and sin. So rather than plug his ears with wax, John had the enticing marble breast draped.

Just a friendly tip, John. Don't go near South Florida where you might see the mermaid statue. Satan is waiting for you there!

The Big Creep

In case you forgot, the young lady in the picture is Sandra Levey, who mysteriously disappeared and was later found murdered.

Her boyfriend at the time, Gary Condit, was widely believed to be somehow involved in her disappearance. Although events have since shown that he is most likely innocent, his cold and callous demeanor made it entirely credible that he was capable of murder. It is not for nothing that Gary was called "The Most Despised Man in America."

But here is the big question: why was a young, beautiful, intelligent lady like Chandra sexually involved with venal scum such as Gary Condit?

Hmm. Let's think about all of the characteritics that women say they look for in a man. Was Gary sensitive? Did he have a great sense of humor? Was he generous? Kind to children? Look at his picture. Following his TV interview, in which he came across as chillingly inhuman, people despised him even more. Was Gary handsome, athletic? Again, look at the picture. Perhaps they had common interests; yet Gary was much older than she was. Romantic nights together, maybe? It is reported that Gary would have Chandra wear a baseball cap to conceal her identity and slide into his car and go straight to a motel.

To top it all off, Gary Condit is an evil man. At a time when Chandra disappeared and information was crucial to recovering Chandra if possible, Gary stonewalled the investigation. I am not saying Gary is evil for having an affair, but when your lover's life is at stake (hell, even a stranger's life) you have an obligation to come forward, even if it reflects badly on you. But sleazemeister Gary went further, having his team of toady lawyers malign Chandra as a slut, implying she deserved what she got.

How does a dwarfish, soulless villain, completely lacking any sort of humanity score a hot young babe like Chandra? In all of the characteristics women desire in a man, Condit fails in every single one. Could it be that everything women say about what they look for in a man is total bullshit?

A vital clue is that he was Congressman Gary Condit. If you are an Alpha Male with money, status, and power, you will have a line of women at your door, regardless of how eerily inhuman you are.


The Big Creep

In case you forgot, Monica Lewinsky referred to her boyfriend Bill Clinton as "The Big Creep." (Remember that Bill Clinton and his team of sychophants were going to slander Monica as a deluded slut who merely fantasized that she slept with the president, only the whole character assassination bit fell apart when Monica produced a semen splattered dress.) Much has been made of Paula Tripp betraying Monica, but Monica was so disillusioned with Bill Clinton that she needed to vent. Note that even though Monica despised Bill Clinton, she continued to date "The Big Creep."

The objective here is not to berate women, but to point out that being an Alpha Male trumps every other consideration. A woman will prefer to stay with a callous, hollow Alpha Male rather than run to an honest, decent, kind, etc. Beta Male.

Men are really no different. You and I can list all of the desirable traits we seek in a woman, such as a sense of humor, honesty, affection, intelligence, and so on, but if a nymphomaniac Playmate of the Year walks into your bedroom, all of those traits will go right out the window if need be.

The upshot of all of this is to move toward Alpha Male status. As long as you live as a Beta Male, you will strike out with every Monica Lewinsky and Chandra Levey you meet (They are more common than you think!), and you will be clueless as to why.

The Problem with Jessica Simpson's Breasts

Actually, there's nothing wrong with Jessica Simpson's breasts, unless you're a Christian.

Originally, Jessica started out as a Christian singer, but she had a problem --she was "too sexy." (Read it here.)

According to her mother, Jessica's breasts were too large for Christian music executives. So in her photo shoots, her mother frantically tried to disguise her breasts, having her photographed in large jackets, for instance.

We must ask why Jessica Simpson is too big breasted to be a Christian singer. Now Christians (particularly fundamentalist, evangelical Christians) will tell you that sex is beautiful because it was created by God, but their actions say something else entirely. Although one reader disputed the fact that I was ever a Christian or had any understanding of exactly how evangelical Christians think, teach, speak, and react, I know that in the Christian mind, sex is inextricably tied up with guilt, fear, sin, secrecy and self-loathing.

For the Christian man, the mere sight of Jessica Simpson is enough to cause him to sin. In the Christian version of thought crime, lustful thoughts are sins punishable by damnation. I have heard Christian men say how they avoid TV, R-rated movies, and beaches, because these are opportunities for sin, and if lustful glances can cause one to "stray" into a sin punishable by eternal fire, isn't it better just to stay in a darkened room with the curtains drawn and simply have take out meals brought to your room for the rest of your life? (And don't forget to specify that the delivery person be male! The last thing you want is to go forty years successfully, only to wind up in hell because of a busty pizza girl.) Oh, and while you're locked up in your room, be careful not to masturbate, either, because that's also a sin. (Read my take on the play-it-safe Christian loser here.)

Although Christians would deny it, they are one step removed from an Islamic state wherein all women are forced to wear burkhas. Far fetched? What would a Muslim recording company do with Jessica Simpson? They'd reject her because she's too sexy. What did Christian music companies do with Jessica Simpson? They rejected her because she's too sexy.

I rest my case.

Rock On!

Check out this nugget of wisdom from Chris Rock:

Chris Rock Blasts Greedy Women

When it's time to get a divorce, women got it made. You go to court, start talkin' that shit. "I'm used to this, I'm used to that. I'm accustomed to this." What the fuck is accustomed? What's that got to do with shit? You go to a restaurant, you accustomed to eatin'. You leave, you ain't eatin' no more. They don't owe you a steak. What about what the man's used to? It might not be money, but during the course of a relationship, a man grows accustomed to a few things. I would love to see a man go to court and say, "Your honor, check this out. I'm accustomed to fuckin' her four times a week. Now I feel I should be able to fuck her at least twice a week. I mean she can have the alimony, but I want some pussy payments.

The Happiest Men

Well, somehow I've got to find a way to justify using the picture on the left.

Actually, I feel pretty frickin' happy just looking at that picture, and so you could imagine how a guy would feel if he had a girlfriend like this. Which leads us to the following facts:

According to a study done by the British Household Panel Survey, "ten years of data from 10,000 people under the age of 65 show that men enjoy better mental health when living with a lover than when married or single."

(This is from the Philippines issue of Men's Health magazine, July 2005.)

The quote essentially means that men are happiest when they have a live-in partner. Now this took me by surprise, in that I believe a live-in partner has many of the drawbacks of a marriage --controlling behaviors by the woman, nagging, lack of freedom, and having to endure her gay decorative touches strewn about the room.

But as I think of it, right now I'm in just such an arrangement (minus the gay decorative touches). My girlfriend gets off work, we go out to eat, then she spends the night in my hotel room and we have torrid sex. I'm pretty fucking happy. Deliriously ecstatic is probably a better description.

I knew that marriage was a non-starter, and as I said before, the results for single men are skewed because they include a horde of dysfunctional, miserable losers (I know from personal experience), such as drunken, embittered dwarves, who are mixed in with the likes of a handful of men who are living dream lives, like Derek Jeter (Click here to see a mouth-watering collection of Derek Jeter's ho's.)

The survey also found --brace yourselves for this one-- that women were happiest when married. No duh, Sherlock. That is why women are so hell-bent on getting married. Just realize that it's not in your best interests.